Urban PUA
July 14, 2024
July Week 2 Review: Perseverance Despite An Depression & Burnout
July 07, 2024
July Week 1 Review: A New Chapter
June 29, 2024
June Week 4 Review: Never Ask A Girl What She Does
A decent week so far with few firsts. I got my first number from a supermarket approach that happened naturally, the first reply from an IG lead, and, probably, the first time that I did > 30 sets a week for 2 week streak.
Nonetheless, I still couldn't get a date this week, I was supposed to have a date on Friday with the Thai girl from last week (who messaged me mid week to meet up) but it didn't happen due to bad logistics.
Game-wise, I can see some development in my gaming style that is creating better reactions from girls. I'm focusing less on what to say (stacking, teasing, etc) and more on the energy that I deliver during the first few seconds of a set. Nonetheless, I see few issues that popped up this week and some lingering issues that I still need to fix once and for all.
The good:
- Increased in spontaneity. I see a hot girl outside a session (and she is by herself), I don't hesitate to approach
- I stopped relying on my standard "job" stacking, and instead stack on other things that are more personal and unique to her, e.g. her nationality, outfit, etc. Though, sometimes forget and regress.
- I put more energy and focus in how I stop the girl. I stopped using "excuse me" and replaced it with a strong audible "Hey" accompanied by a hand wave (in case she is wearing a earphones). I can't say if it's more effective than the older approach, but it certainly makes me feel better (and more masculine) than when I say excuse me.
- My texting style has improved a bit and starting to mature. In the past, I was quite uncertain on what to say or how to respond to certain text. Now, starting to get a glimpse on what works and what doesn't
- Starting to get really good in observing girls and preparing stack topic
The bad:
- Even though I stack less on job, I occasionally slip back to my old habit and ask a girl what she does or guess it.
- After listening to some of my recorded sets, noticed that my conversation overlaps with the girl's. Can't believe this is still happening. I thought I fixed it issue. Need to pay more attention to this as it's very problematic
- Also after listening to my recording, noticed that I say "yeah" after I finish my sentence. Another thing to fix
- I'm occasionally making the silly mistake of trying to game a girl over text. I did so on a girl who wasn't investing much, and needless to say, she is gone. But in a way, can't blame myself as I'm yet to figure out how to deal with girls that give very short responses that are hard to work with, or girls that don't invest at all or ask questions.
- While not critical in building attraction, my conversation skills still need polishing. Something to work on both in field and out of it
- I need to spend some time preparing stories & stacking material about many things: countries, places, food, pop culture, etc so I can related better with girls
Memorable sets:
Stats (24 - 28 June):
30 Approaches
4 numbers
1 IG
3 replies
0 dates
2 active leads
June 23, 2024
June Week 3 Review: New City, Old Sticking Points
May 25, 2024
Venturing into the Desert: Versatile Cold Approach Experiment
April 27, 2024
Bukit Bintang weekend stay & field report
I've been doing most of my weekend daygame sessions in KL due to the high volume of quality targets. But the problem I'm facing is that... I start my day quite slowly.
I wake up around 8 am, super sluggish. It takes me 1-2 cups of coffee to come to life, and I find myself watching random stuff on YT and only leave my house 4-5 hours later.
I don't like that. So I decided to leave my house earlier on weekends. I thought it's a good idea if I stay the night closer to where I game, perhaps in a place that is not as comfortable as my house so I'm forced to go out as soon as I freshen up.
December 29, 2023
#3 - The Talkative Maniac
Being in the right place at the right time can expose you to pleasant (and sometimes weird) experiences.
That's what happened to me one Friday last September. I finished work and battled with myself over whether I should hit the mall, do some sets, or just call it a day and head home.
I decided to go to the mall.
The first girl I approached was a Chinese expat who turned out to be a master's student. After I got her number, I continued strolling in the mall, then I spotted another girl. She was wearing jean shorts and a crop top T-shirt reading "Alice in Wonderland" while holding a brown jacket (probably due to the cold train).
December 10, 2023
Daygame Lessons from 2023
2023 wasn't quite a productive year in terms of daygaming, but I've learned quite a lot about myself and my daygame skills, and I'm writing about some of what I've discovered or observed.
Unfortunately, that's what I kinda did during my one-year-long relationship with a girl I met while daygaming. She never stood in my way, but she was so kind, so nice to me that I couldn't help but fall (a little bit) for her, as she did for me. Love.
I nonetheless never stopped daygaming, as our relationship wasn't too serious. However, my game drive and desire to hit the malls waned to the degree that I was going weeks without approaching.
But then, we broke up. A year later. And I was back single.
I was relieved, in a way, as now I had more time to focus on my bachelor pursuits, including daygame.
However, after returning to regular gaming, I saw a significant drop in results, compared to early 2022 (when I was dating 2-3 girls a month). What happened throughout 2023?
When I started daygame in 2020, everyone was masked up until the end of 2022. So basically, 90% of my daygame journey took place during a period of religiously practiced covid restrictions.
Surprisingly, self-fist pump, I managed to adapt to such unusual circumstances and game well enough to get results and lays.
But after covid cases dropped, and restrictions lifted, I found myself walking around in malls, mask-free. I was able to breathe better. But I kinda felt (exposed), as if I'm naked. That, nonetheless, didn't stop me from doing sets.
However, I noticed a major decline in the quality of numbers and dates. Numbers were either flaking or ghosting. Dates were... almost nonexistent, except for one with a Christian girl who wasn't interested in sex before marriage but was courteous enough to ask me out for dinner (to return the favor of paying for dinner on the first date).
The struggle continued for over 6 months, many approaches, several numbers, few replies, and only one date. Not really any daygamer's dream.
So the question is, how did it get to that?
My best guess is that the mask(s) I was wearing for almost 2 years were concealing my facial expressions, and that may have created a sense of mystery to my persona, as they can't read me by looking at my face.
That, in conjunction with hard work and improving calibration, had made me attractive enough to some of the girls I ran into.
But once the mask was off, they started seeing flaws that I wasn't aware of. It could be a fake smile, a nervous expression, or maybe a crooked nose 😂.
Though it's mostly likely due to my facial expressions not being incongruent with what I was saying or doing. Even if I was ugly (which I'm not), it wouldn't explain the unreasonable drop in results even with less attractive sets.
One thing I'm sure guilty of, though, is that I smile a lot both out of nervousness and also as a strategy to come off as friendly.
And sadly, it has carried over to my daygame. My strategy to get a girl to like me has become trying to appear as friendly as I can, through a smile and other means.
Smiling is an important element of seduction, but when it's used as a crutch or a tool, it often comes off as uncalibrated, insincere, or an expression of low value.
Something to work on!
- Buy that car that you dreamt of that moment you can afford it
- Ask for that salary increment that you deserved
- When daygaming, before you open your mouth, make sure that your set sees it in your eyes that you wanna fuck her. And keep that intention alive until you finish inside her.
- If you decide to approach 100 girls this month, make sure that you fight tooth and nail to make that happen
- If you promised someone or group of people of something (dinner, event, etc), make it happen at all cost, unless you in a hospital or totally incapacitated
- As per above, don't break promises you made to yourself as that will make you feel unreliable
- Don't abuse alcohol, drugs or anything that will make you destroy the identity you worked hard to build
- Prioritise your schedule and lifestyle over others as much as you can, or compromise without given away too much of your time
November 24, 2023
#2 - The Adorable Chinese
I met May in 2022, back when I was doing a nonstop daily game streak. She was average looking Chinese girl with a very good vibe and and a charming smile that radiated through her mask.
When I approached her in a mall somewhere in PJ, and told her "she look lovely", she blushed and responded with a friendly "Thank you". Like any of my other sets, we chatted about several things, mainly work and travelling. She told me she was studying in Taiwan for 4 years, and return home last month...
July 15, 2023
The Daygame Goals That Led Me To Nowhere
I don't know why I didn't get much result in the past year. But one thing I know for sure is that I took the fun out of gaming.
By focusing on the wrong things... numbers, stats, commitments, habits, etc
Thanks to too much indulgence in theory and self-help materials.
April 24, 2023
#1 - IKEA girl (Part II)
She took off her shoes and socks and started looking around curiously. She saw a weighing scale and stood on it "OMG, I lost weight".